Making Change: 6 Habits of Healthy Couples

6 Habits of Healthy Couples

Making Change for a Happy Relationship

We are creatures of routine and can often find ourselves stuck in bad cycles of either fighting, being too busy, or not having the right expectations. The only way to create new habits to build a stronger connection in your marriage is to become proactive.
Here are 6 ACTIONS you can take to build healthy habits in your marriage:

1. Cultivate Positivity

Maybe your spouse says something critical, something off-handed that doesn’t quite land the right way. Our natural response is to retaliate or shut down. This can easily put couples in a toxic cycle of tit for tat. You can run on that treadmill for years!

ACTION: You can actually stop these tiffs in their tracks by simply reminding yourself of the amazing qualities of your spouse. Jot them down on a post-it, your phone, or somewhere handy and pull them out as a reminder that you’re on the same team.

2. Compliment Often
It’s not enough to know how much you might love your spouse, you need to communicate that as often as possible. Words are extremely powerful.
ACTION: Take 60 seconds and share all the wonderful characteristics of your spouse. This can be done over the phone, via text, or through notes, but it’s most powerful when done in person. Come on… who doesn’t have 2 minutes a day?

 
3. Dream Together
Couples who stop sharing common goals together often drift apart and become more like roommates than lovers. You must cultivate a sense of excitement and anticipation about the future, which helps carry you through those dry seasons.
ACTION: Research your next vacation as a couple together. Find a destination that you both want to go to and find some common activities you want to enjoy!

 
4. Own Your Mistakes
We are constantly making mistakes and fail to deliver on our promises. When you apologise, it shows that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions in the marriage.
ACTION: Ask your spouse frequently if there is anything you need to apologise for in the relationship. This gives opportunities to face conflict when you are not in the heat of the moment.

 
5. Pray together
There is power in prayer as it is the practice of the presence of God. It is the place where pride is abandoned and hope is lifted. And when couples do this together, they simply become unstoppable in all that they do.
ACTION: When we talk to God, we find ourselves offering thanks for what we have and speaking life into our lives and over those we know. We find ways to also pray over each other based on what we’ve shared throughout the day.

 
6. Date Nights
Yup, you guessed it. Our go to cure for 100% of couples we coach. Date nights are about rekindling the romance and friendship by building emotional intimacy.
ACTION: Take action now! Mark your calendar for your next date night. No talking about the kids or your money. Use these date night questions here to spark great conversations.

 
A thriving couple is not a perfect couple that comes together, but an imperfect couple that learns to enjoy each other’s differences, and works together every day to create something special.  A great marriage isn’t luck and doesn’t just happen, it requires effort and care to endure and evolve in ways that keep both partners fulfilled.


Marriage365 was founded by Casey and Meygan Caston, who chose to rebuild their marriage that was heading straight to divorce. Learning how to navigate their relationship, they started out sharing inspirational messages through daily social media, and quickly grew to writing, speaking, creating an online premarital course and coaching couples.

This is Ana Allan.